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Testimonials: Dating
"It's a shame I can't mark this testimonial as 6/5, because with Margarita that is what you get."
Alexander Fox
Teacher and Dancer
Margarita helped me through one of the worst moments of my life. Talking with Margarita was something I looked forward to each week as with her help I started being able to pull myself up out of the black hole I found myself in.
Whilst having coaching with Margarita, I've been in two short term relationships that have taught me a lot about myself and that definitely wouldn't have happened without Margarita's prior support. During these relationships our attention turned to how to keep an enjoyable atmosphere and learning how to pace a relationship."
Teacher and Dancer
Margarita helped me through one of the worst moments of my life. Talking with Margarita was something I looked forward to each week as with her help I started being able to pull myself up out of the black hole I found myself in.
Whilst having coaching with Margarita, I've been in two short term relationships that have taught me a lot about myself and that definitely wouldn't have happened without Margarita's prior support. During these relationships our attention turned to how to keep an enjoyable atmosphere and learning how to pace a relationship."
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"Margarita helped me through one of the worst moments of my life. My girlfriend of nearly 4 years decided she no longer wanted to be with me and then the Coronavirus hit. Depression and isolation are not a good combination.
Talking with Margarita was something I looked forward to each week as with her help I started being able to pull myself up out of the black hole I found myself in.
A lot of our work together was based on what I wanted out of relationships and how to find people who are looking for the same thing. We worked a lot on showing up to life and the things it throws your way.
One of the results of my work with Margarita was that I started going to a salsa evening that my dance group put on every week. I ended up meeting lots of interesting new people that I would never have met, I also enjoyed myself and added a bit of joy back into my life, as well as finding out that I actually enjoyed bachata.
One of the other things we worked on was rejection. I used to feel rejected every time that someone wouldn't respond in a favourable way to me. With Margarita, I was able to learn that there are things that I can control, things that I can't and that maybe the rejection has nothing to do with me and that maybe they are just as scared. Although I haven't learnt the secret to never feeling rejected, I doubt one even exists, the tools that Margarita has equipped me with allow me to view it from an objective point of view and to find my own healthy way to deal with rejection.
Whilst having coaching with Margarita, I've been in 2 short term relationships that have taught me a lot about myself and that definitely wouldn't have happened without Margarita's prior support. During these relationships our attention turned to how to keep an enjoyable atmosphere and learning how to pace a relationship.
It's a shame I can't mark this testimonial as 6/5, because with Margarita that is what you get."
Talking with Margarita was something I looked forward to each week as with her help I started being able to pull myself up out of the black hole I found myself in.
A lot of our work together was based on what I wanted out of relationships and how to find people who are looking for the same thing. We worked a lot on showing up to life and the things it throws your way.
One of the results of my work with Margarita was that I started going to a salsa evening that my dance group put on every week. I ended up meeting lots of interesting new people that I would never have met, I also enjoyed myself and added a bit of joy back into my life, as well as finding out that I actually enjoyed bachata.
One of the other things we worked on was rejection. I used to feel rejected every time that someone wouldn't respond in a favourable way to me. With Margarita, I was able to learn that there are things that I can control, things that I can't and that maybe the rejection has nothing to do with me and that maybe they are just as scared. Although I haven't learnt the secret to never feeling rejected, I doubt one even exists, the tools that Margarita has equipped me with allow me to view it from an objective point of view and to find my own healthy way to deal with rejection.
Whilst having coaching with Margarita, I've been in 2 short term relationships that have taught me a lot about myself and that definitely wouldn't have happened without Margarita's prior support. During these relationships our attention turned to how to keep an enjoyable atmosphere and learning how to pace a relationship.
It's a shame I can't mark this testimonial as 6/5, because with Margarita that is what you get."
"From Languishing to Blossoming"
Allison [name changed] wanted 1-to-1 coaching to help her:
- Call an end to an unsatisfactory relationship
- Keep steady during the break-up period
- Put to rest unsettling echoes from past relationship
- Discover who she'd want in her life, and why they would find her attractive
- Refresh her approach to dating, so she could enjoy the process
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Allison [name changed] asked me to help her with calling an end to a relationship of five years, that she was clear she was unhappy in.
Even though Allison was the one choosing to end the relationship, she was fearful of how she would handle the break-up. She worried she would struggle with low mood in the aftermath, as a newly single woman.
Beyond dealing with the emotional demands of going through with the break-up, Allison wanted to move on from some recurring patterns in her romantic relationships, so she could have a truly new kind of relationship on the next round.
With my help, Allison identified the aspects of breaking up that felt the hardest to her, so we could shift both her mental perspective and her emotional experience of these. As a result, Allison spoke with surprise of how easily she was navigating the up-and-downs that generally follow splitting up.
Once Allison had got over the immediate aftermath of ending her previous relationship, we discussed how she had approached dating in the past, and what she wanted for her next romantic relationship. Allison developed a clear, detailed portrait of the kind of person she would want to bring into her life.
Next, we made sure she knew, both mentally and emotionally, what this person would appreciate about her, so that she would feel on the level with this very desirable potential partner. We checked which of the skills relevant to dating Allison needed to boost, in order to have an enjoyable time with dating, and addressed those that she felt were her weakest link.
Over the course of six weekly sessions, Allison prepared for announcing her break-up, weathered the emotional roller-coaster, got to grips with her new single status, and made ready to date enjoyably.
Even though Allison was the one choosing to end the relationship, she was fearful of how she would handle the break-up. She worried she would struggle with low mood in the aftermath, as a newly single woman.
Beyond dealing with the emotional demands of going through with the break-up, Allison wanted to move on from some recurring patterns in her romantic relationships, so she could have a truly new kind of relationship on the next round.
With my help, Allison identified the aspects of breaking up that felt the hardest to her, so we could shift both her mental perspective and her emotional experience of these. As a result, Allison spoke with surprise of how easily she was navigating the up-and-downs that generally follow splitting up.
Once Allison had got over the immediate aftermath of ending her previous relationship, we discussed how she had approached dating in the past, and what she wanted for her next romantic relationship. Allison developed a clear, detailed portrait of the kind of person she would want to bring into her life.
Next, we made sure she knew, both mentally and emotionally, what this person would appreciate about her, so that she would feel on the level with this very desirable potential partner. We checked which of the skills relevant to dating Allison needed to boost, in order to have an enjoyable time with dating, and addressed those that she felt were her weakest link.
Over the course of six weekly sessions, Allison prepared for announcing her break-up, weathered the emotional roller-coaster, got to grips with her new single status, and made ready to date enjoyably.
- Benjamin Hoff, author of 'The Tao of Pooh'
"You can be a guiding star, if you make the most of Who You Are."
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